August 21, 2017

Receiving criticism or having others criticize you is a difficult thing. Yes, we know that nobody is perfect but when some people take that fact and try to rub it all over you as if they are better off, it can be quite painful. I have learned that when someone takes it upon themselves to look into my matter, they do it for one of the following reasons:

1) They care about me and want me to a better person.

2) They are selfish and do not want to.

3) Inferiority complex is at work. They feel your shine is getting too much and are trying to dull it.

4) They are domineering and want me to remain under their control.

Whatever their reason may be, it is very important to understand that there could be some elements of truth in what they are saying. However, you want to be sure that this matter is worth breaking a sweat over.

In order to understand the motive behind the criticism, you need to ask yourself the following question:

• Is this person someone who has been genuinely concerned about your well-being before?

• Is he/she willing to hear your perspective?

• Their criticism, is it legitimate?

• Is it just a case of difference of opinion and value?

Responding To Criticism

Depending on what your findings are from the questions above. If the person seems to be criticizing as a bully, due to inferiority complex or for selfish reasons then you have no business responding to them.
However, if the criticism is coming from a genuine heart. You can do the following:

  1. Thank the person for their concern.

  2. Take note of what needs to change.

Benefits of Accepting Criticism

  1. Improved relationship with your critic. This is not to encourage you to accommodate people with poor manners. If the critic delivered his criticism poorly, you have the right to correct them by showing them how you would rather be treated. Acknowledge that they are right in their observation but they should present it this way next time.

Acknowledge that they are right in their observation but they should present it this way next time.

Generally, when you take on to the criticism of a person who has the genuine interest in you, they feel like they are part of your life. They feel valued and this, in turn, increases the bond between both of you.

  1. Personal Growth: Accepting criticism helps you to be a better person because you are constantly working on yourself to improve on something and become better at something.

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  1. Expands your perspective: You learn to accommodate other people’s opinion by allowing criticism. This also helps you to have a widened perspective and begin to see through the eyes of others.

  2. Helps us become more Self-controlled: Criticism hurts and our ability to train our self to accept them without fighting back helps us to stay humble. The more we train our self to accept constructive criticism, the more we grow into self-controlled people who can accommodate others easily.

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In conclusion

When we receive criticism, always remember that we are humans and we are imperfect even the critic himself is nowhere near perfect.

Therefore, I hope you can start accepting criticism when they are coming from a genuine heart and do everything in your power to use them to your advantage.

Do you have any topics related to personal development, marketing strategies, style or faith that you would love to see on our blog?

Please, drop your suggestions in the comment section below or connect with me privately here. Thank you.

Love, Sekinat Sanni.

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  • Reply Abibat Sanni August 21, 2017 at 5:37 pm

    Ma Sha Allah …… Nice write up

  • Reply Aramie August 21, 2017 at 5:40 pm

    Thanks for this one, particularly needed it. 👏🏽

    • Reply Sekinat August 21, 2017 at 6:43 pm

      Glad you benefited 💞

  • Reply Maryam Giwa August 22, 2017 at 9:29 am

    I want to meet the person who inspired this. It would do the world a lot of good. Great work darl❤️

    • Reply Sekinat August 22, 2017 at 9:47 am

      Thank you darling ☺️🤗

  • Reply Themodestgirlslay August 22, 2017 at 11:01 am

    This read was perfectly timed for me. Thank you for sharing. Now I have a better understanding to handling criticism.

    • Reply Sekinat August 22, 2017 at 11:04 am

      Sake, glad you gained deeper understanding as regards handling critics.

  • Reply Vicky August 24, 2017 at 1:56 pm

    Thanks dear. This is really great and inspiring. I did love it and i appreciate your efforts into putting this together. Thanks alot

    • Reply Sekinat August 24, 2017 at 5:08 pm

      Oh awesome. Thank you very much

  • Reply toyosigregoryjonah September 8, 2017 at 5:45 am

    I have a similar post coming up in a bit which was inspired by the recent interview osagie along of pulse TV had with MI abaga the rapper ,dunno if you ever saw it ,and I must say you hit the cord about all the points/reasons you gave!!!A lot of people criticize in such a way that damages the others confidence and self esteem which is horrible and defeats purpose!!!Such a nice piece of article !!!once again welldone
    I hope you get to read mine when it drops on the blog eventually!!!

    • Reply Sekinat September 8, 2017 at 9:32 am

      Definitely, I am looking forward to your post. I. Can’t agree less, if only people can give critics in a more respectful manner; then perhaps people will pay more attention instead that wouldn’t lower their self-esteem.
      I rarely watch TV 🙈 but I will check out that interview, you caught my attention on it.
      Cheers girl ☺️

      • Reply toyosigregoryjonah September 8, 2017 at 9:36 am

        Aww!lets say we are twinning on the not watching tv gang!!but this was online!!i even posted it on my instagram @tgjonah !!!incase you wanna quickly see it

        • Reply Sekinat September 8, 2017 at 10:11 am

          Oh great. I will check it out now 🙏💃

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